It is not a biological response to not believe in the good. This is a cognitive process that enables a person to carry out a certain function. Bad things happen, but … Physicist Brian Josephson exposed his pathological doubt to the scientific community in 2004 before a conference of Nobel Laureates, naming it, “I wouldn’t accept it even if it were genuine.” Science, like mankind, does not rely upon progress for own reasons.
You may stop being receptive to positive information about yourself and the world for a variety of reasons, including:
- you were treated badly, so you were confused as you felt bad, so you decided that you were completely bad;
- relatives got into a bad situation, and with own happiness, you are afraid of betraying them;
- expectations that the good will be followed by something bad: a gift by duty, care and love by betrayal, and so on.
These cognitions result a pattern:
- you begin to invent problems for yourself out of nowhere, and then rake them out;
- you begin feeling good, respect yourself only after overcoming challenges. As a result, you create an alibi – I suffered, so I may (be) reward (ed) myself / obtain a bonus, etc.
Such behavior sets off a loop: you cannot accept good things from life, and there is growing doubt that you deserve good things. As a result, stress becomes a normal environment of life, generating “unwanted” difficulties, and the cycle continues indefinitely.
So, if the global crisis was accompanied by your firing and they didn’t even explain why, the best thing you can do for yourself is to live through the loss and accept it. “Yes, I lost something, and I’m really upset about it,” you admit. And now I’m sad, agitated, and concerned about it. But I’m moving on.“ You are more inclined to fall to despair if you begin to immerse yourself entirely in the surroundings. You begin to feel that you have lost not just your profession, but also yourself, as well as all of your future goals, objectives, and plans. In this way, it is easy to lose sight of existence itself. At first, it is necessary to recognize that the situation may be serious, difficult, and elicit tears or wrath.
If you don’t flatter yourself, and your job talents and expertise are acceptable for the task you’ve been performing, you’re in for an imminent future.
How can you prepare for the imminent future?
You have a planned future when you intend to buy a house in a year or two and go to the Bahamas. In the near future, when a war or pandemic happens, everyone flees into self-isolation, dread, and hostility; mortgages are denied, and borders are closed. People bear no personal responsibility for any of these issues. It is what it is, and the most essential aspect is how you respond to the issue.
If you are fired, assess your personal responsibility, but don’t mistake it with guilt. Perhaps it didn’t work out with the team because you weren’t able to show yourself, as you stated on your CV. Perhaps there was no evident correlation, such as the manager hated you or the business had a payroll cut. Or perhaps you simply did not enjoy your job. What a shame! And now the question is what to do next in such scenarios. There is no need to linger in the past and fall into this quagmire; rather, it is better to mourn and move on.
Crises? Do not panic!
It is good to prepare your own adaptability, which occurs when your reflexes are swift and flexible, and they meet the changing conditions. It is pointless, for example, to participate in a tennis competition if you have never trained. And if you’ve prepared, you’ll be aware of the potential difficulties.
It is vital to be able to manage your own fears. There are three types of people:
- those who are frenzied in stressful situations, making it impossible to manage;
- those who freeze in fear;
- and those who pull themselves together, concentrate and motivate.
The latter are typically hired for high-level positions since they can lead the organization and have a high level of stress tolerance.
How can you increase your stress tolerance?
To begin, you should avoid interfering fields that need high-stress resistance; otherwise, you will overstrain. You may train it on daily reactions such as how you pump your willpower or how you respond if your voice is slightly elevated, and the more control you have over the reaction, the more this stress resistance will emerge.
Where does stress tolerance originate?
There are individuals who had a decent upbringing and had only a few instances of dissatisfaction as a youngster. They will then have established an internal support system and will be able to communicate and argue with the rest of the world.
There are others who grew up in harsh surroundings and built armor as a way of survival because they had no other choice. Then a person does not feel like he is in hell; this is his normal state, and he knows how to deal with it. This, however, is not an indication of increased stress tolerance. Such people must learn to care for themselves or they will face panic attacks.
Albert Einstein described the matter as energy, and it exists as a tendency at the atomic level. What is your response when you think about what kind of being you are cultivating via your thoughts and actions?